Questions from my friend, Blondie, over at ttwdblondiesblog.blogspot.com.
How did you come up with your blog name? Is it easier to submit during
sex or during the regular day? And would you ever consider having a
third in a sex scene?
My blog name?
My name, Pearl Necklace, came about in a funny/vanilla'ish way. I have always written but never put my heart into publishing. I have written children's stories mainly (stop laughing). Yes, I write on this blog but I do not write adult fiction and have no interest. True stories and auto/biographies are what I have always been more interested in reading and writing. That being said, I have always told my husband that my first book would be titled Not Your Grandma's Pearl Necklace. People would buy it for the amazing title and get stuck reading about our crazy, funny, kinky life!
The actual blog name, "Happily Surrendered and Submissive" came about after I realized that I searched that exact title/subject over and over looking for others like us/me. That was how I identified myself and I was hoping that others who felt that way would find what they needed in my blog.
Easier to submit during sex or regular day?
This is a really tough one! Submitting during sex is natural and uncomplicated for me. I would say my only struggle is my imagination and my insatiable need at times. I need to remember not to top from the bottom and just communicate my needs so I don't perseverate on them.
Submission during the regular day is the toughie and my answer to your question. It's NOT that submission/service is not in my heart, it is just not logistically that easy sometimes. My preference is to defer to my Man during the regular day and to have boundaries/limits/expectation. The problem is that my work takes over and I think that throws my Man for a loop with his leadership at times. My career gets stressful, I have anxiety and stress, and he often backs off. My career needs to be what it is. There is no option for either of us for it to not be part of our life. That being said, we are ever on a balance between fostering all of who I am. If anyone has the key or suggestions, PLEASE email me!!!
Last, but not least, would I ever consider a third in a sex scene? The short answer, yes! But, this is the real world with real disease and so on so I am not too sure that it would ever pan out for us. So much would have to be perfect for this to actually occur. We have children and families and I have a sneaky feeling that by the time the time would be "right" we would be too damn old anyway =)
Awesome questions B!