Sunday, March 8, 2015

Why Pearl Necklace?

 Questions from my friend, Blondie, over at ttwdblondiesblog.blogspot.com.

How did you come up with your blog name? Is it easier to submit during sex or during the regular day? And would you ever consider having a third in a sex scene? 


My blog name?
My name, Pearl Necklace, came about in a funny/vanilla'ish way.  I have always written but never put my heart into publishing.  I have written children's stories mainly (stop laughing).  Yes, I write on this blog but I do not write adult fiction and have no interest.  True stories and auto/biographies are what I have always been more interested in reading and writing.  That being said, I have always told my husband that my first book would be titled Not Your Grandma's Pearl Necklace.  People would buy it for the amazing title and get stuck reading about our crazy, funny, kinky life!

The actual blog name, "Happily Surrendered and Submissive" came about after I realized that I searched that exact title/subject over and over looking for others like us/me.  That was how I identified myself and I was hoping that others who felt that way would find what they needed in my blog.

Easier to submit during sex or regular day?
This is a really tough one!  Submitting during sex is natural and uncomplicated for me.  I would say my only struggle is my imagination and my insatiable need at times.  I need to remember not to top from the bottom and just communicate my needs so I don't perseverate on them.

Submission during the regular day is the toughie and my answer to your question.  It's NOT that submission/service is not in my heart, it is just not logistically that easy sometimes.  My preference is to defer to my Man during the regular day and to have boundaries/limits/expectation.  The problem is that my work takes over and I think that throws my Man for a loop with his leadership at times.  My career gets stressful, I have anxiety and stress, and he often backs off.  My career needs to be what it is.  There is no option for either of us for it to not be part of our life.  That being said, we are ever on a balance between fostering all of who I am.  If anyone has the key or suggestions, PLEASE email me!!!

Last, but not least, would I ever consider a third in a sex scene?  The short answer, yes!  But, this is the real world with real disease and so on so I am not too sure that it would ever pan out for us.  So much would have to be perfect for this to actually occur.  We have children and families and I have a sneaky feeling that by the time the time would be "right" we would be too damn old anyway  =)

Awesome questions B! 

9 comments:

  1. I like your answers. You cracked me up with your last sentence. That is how Ty and I feel too. All the things that sound great probably won't be doable when we have the time and all is well in the world. Like how you got your name, I wasn't thinking about children stuff when I first heard your name, but you know the kind that your husband gives you.... Thanks for answering my questions.

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    1. Right!? I have a feeling that we will be finding our "unicorn" at the retirement home. =)

      So, after I re-read my post my answer wasn't very clear. My thought of being an author was always in regards to children's books. The Pearl Necklace was in reference to my favorite kind, yes the husband kind, and the problem that would pose when I really want to write a book with that title. Children's author turned porn writer all because I think that is a fantastic book title. Too funny!

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  2. Great questions from Blondie and I loved your answers Pearl! The answer to your name sure wasn't what I expected lol

    Thank you for answering my questions and thank you for your questions. I plan to shsre answers in a post.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I LOVE when you post Roz!! I look forward to it.

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  3. My mind was completely elsewhere with your name too. I'm with Blondie on that I love your last sentence - too funny. Thanks for sharing and being so open.

    Her is a question for you (if you haven't already answered it in your blog previously)
    - Does anyone in your family or close friends know about your submissive interests and lifestyle? If so, what has been the reaction?

    Best,
    Enzo

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    1. Enzo, WELCOME!!!! Awesome to see a new face here.

      My answer was a bit confusing I think. Although I always wrote children's stories I told my Man that my first book would be an adult book. I guess Not Your Grandma's Pearl Necklace could also be a kid book title =)

      I will be answering your question soon!

      Thanks again and I really hope to see you in blogland more!
      XOXO Pearl

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    2. Thanks for the welcome!
      I hope to visit here more often; always feel free to visit at my place, if you haven't ever been. (My blog is written with a random topics, male perspective).

      Best,
      Enzo

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  4. Never too old. :) I know people well into their 70s who are still kinking it up.

    Here's my question (if it hasn't been asked before?): How has blogging improved your relationship?

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    1. I so hope that you're right!! I always think that erectile dysfunction only really hurts the vanilla folks in the end. Those of us in kink are well aware that penis in vagina is one of the most boring things we do =)

      I love seeing you here!!

      And, I am working on the answer to your question. Thank you!

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