Thursday, March 26, 2015

I love when Conina B is back on my blogroll!!!

Anyone who has read through my blog knows that Conina B over at is the reason I came out of my writing shell and started this whole bloging life.  I hope she never grows tired of my "Thanks" because I owe her many!!

Conina is very thankfully back on my blogroll and she asked me a question =)

How has blogging changed your relationship?

This is an ever-evolving answer.

The first benefit was honestly to my mental health.  I already wrote in a journal but this was different.   Up until I met all of you in blogland, I very much felt on my own fucked up little island.  Now I understand that it is a beautifully kinky island that has love, pain, pleasure, patience, passion, and everything else in our own little version of normal.   Most importantly, I learned through blogging that my Man is on that beautiful kinky island with me!  My journaling was always TO my Man but now there is outside input and a new view that has changed us very much for the better.

A very basic silly change (that I can't deny) is the libido benefit when I regularly blog and read blogs.  It keeps my focus where we want it to be.  Without any of you feeding my unquenchable thirst for MORE I might grow a little boring =)

Thanks for the great question Conina!!

Friday, March 20, 2015

Note to self:

1.  Shave the undercarriage everyday.

Down with His face between my legs telling me that I will be coming in His mouth tonight, He stops suddenly.

Why didn't you shave?

I am removed and entranced.   

What?!        Wh......What?!          I don't know.

Go back in the shower and shave your pussy.  I don't want it prickley. 

And so ends my cumming in His mouth for the night.  


lawn mower tattoo - I've always loved this one! It's been a fav since the mid 90's. Gotta have it... maybe next year.

THIS IS NOT ME!  However, when I typed in "shaved" and "pussy" about 50 pic's of bald cats came up.  Oh, and the photo above.  It seriously made me laugh out loud and I just had to share it!!

Monday, March 16, 2015

Who knows?

Question from Enzo at

Does anyone in your family or close friends know about your submissive interests and lifestyle? If so, what has been the reaction? 

Family, no.  What I do show to them is that my Man comes first and that I have complete respect for him and for his thoughts on what I should do or how I should be doing things.

Friends, well....most of them too see the same side that my family sees.  Most of our friends also know that we are very into sex, we don't hide that much.  I don't talk bad about my Man with the other ladies and when the guys complain about having to beg for blowjobs I am very proud that my Man doesn't anything to add to that list of complaints.

I do have one friend, my bestie =), who knows I have a sex blog and who knows that we are a bit freaky and that he runs the show.  I have never actually said the exact terms "D/s" and we have not talked about the spanking and bondage part but as for what she does know, she was amazing and said how relieved she was (as she is a little freaky too!).  It really did open up a whole new dialogue for us.  She asked my opinion on if she should do a threesome and she listens to my crazy escapades.  I would love to lay it all out there for her but I am not too sure how to or if it's even necessary.  She wants to very much read my blog but I won't let her because I don't want to sensor myself in the future.  I like my freedom to say all that I need to say and I am afraid that I might think twice if I knew she was a regular reader.

Great question Enzo and again, WELCOME!!

Friday, March 13, 2015

Little Fucker

I am regaining my life.  Settling back into U/us, Him, and me.  Goals achieved, all because of His love, support, guidance, faithfulness and patience.

I am in his bed.
Bed is fluffed.
I am showered.
Towel is folded next to me.
I am naked.
In the true D/s sense of the word.


You brought your towel?  Are you hoping something happens tonight?

Old worries set in.  (aka: Little Fucker)
Am I too bold?  Does He not want this?  Does this put him on the spot?

I remind those old worries (Little Fucker) that He and I made a commitment.  W/we no longer question if this is for us.  This IS U/us.  No disconnect, just life.

I don't hope it does or doesn't.  You like me to bring a towel to bed and I brought my towel to bed.
This was not said sassy or rude, just matter of fact and honest.  I am releasing my control.

Oh, we're doing that again?

Any of you who have had that Little Fucker in the back of your mind reminding you that you are NOT a slave/sub worthy of ownership will understand what I mean when I say that the Little Fucker ran down and kicked me in the stomach in that very moment.

I wanted to
throw up,
get my clothes on,
and disappear.

I wrestle with that Little Fucker, not very often, but she never fully leaves me alone.  I know her.  I know her quirks.  I know that she grows stronger with little encouragement if I let her.

But, here is the thing, she grows when I  LET  HER.  She grows when I take the reigns, when I take control, when I see an opportunity to prove her right.  She grows when I sink inside, feed her, and LET HER grow.  I used to think that she kept me safe. I thought she was my parachute.

Not tonight.

She is a Little Fucker.

I owe her nothing.

My commitment is to my Man.  W/we made a commitment to each other.

It makes no difference if his comments were a test, the truth, or a playful little jab at my recent "absence".  The Little Fucker saw a weakness and pounced.  I owe her NOTHING.

If He struggles to guide me, my submission serves to remind Him.
If He tests my limits and commitment, my submission serves to make Him proud.
If He throws a playful jab my way, my submission affirms that I do NOT question O/our commitment.

I serve Him.

I do NOT serve the Little Fucker.

I cannot make her go away but I can sure as hell can decide to surrender to my Man.  To serve Him and all that W/we have committed to each other.  When I do that, there is no time left to feed the Little Fucker.

Every single time I deny the Little Fucker she atrophies.  I will not feed her.  I will not go inside and play.  She is no parachute.  She is a brick.  She drags me down to a place where I cannot breath.  She makes me doubt that I am His perfect answer.  She stands in the way of me being His perfect answer.  SHE IS A LITTLE FUCKER.

There is freedom in being owned.  I owe her NOTHING.  And, I certainly have no permission to give her any of me.

Sunday, March 8, 2015

Why Pearl Necklace?

 Questions from my friend, Blondie, over at

How did you come up with your blog name? Is it easier to submit during sex or during the regular day? And would you ever consider having a third in a sex scene? 

My blog name?
My name, Pearl Necklace, came about in a funny/vanilla'ish way.  I have always written but never put my heart into publishing.  I have written children's stories mainly (stop laughing).  Yes, I write on this blog but I do not write adult fiction and have no interest.  True stories and auto/biographies are what I have always been more interested in reading and writing.  That being said, I have always told my husband that my first book would be titled Not Your Grandma's Pearl Necklace.  People would buy it for the amazing title and get stuck reading about our crazy, funny, kinky life!

The actual blog name, "Happily Surrendered and Submissive" came about after I realized that I searched that exact title/subject over and over looking for others like us/me.  That was how I identified myself and I was hoping that others who felt that way would find what they needed in my blog.

Easier to submit during sex or regular day?
This is a really tough one!  Submitting during sex is natural and uncomplicated for me.  I would say my only struggle is my imagination and my insatiable need at times.  I need to remember not to top from the bottom and just communicate my needs so I don't perseverate on them.

Submission during the regular day is the toughie and my answer to your question.  It's NOT that submission/service is not in my heart, it is just not logistically that easy sometimes.  My preference is to defer to my Man during the regular day and to have boundaries/limits/expectation.  The problem is that my work takes over and I think that throws my Man for a loop with his leadership at times.  My career gets stressful, I have anxiety and stress, and he often backs off.  My career needs to be what it is.  There is no option for either of us for it to not be part of our life.  That being said, we are ever on a balance between fostering all of who I am.  If anyone has the key or suggestions, PLEASE email me!!!

Last, but not least, would I ever consider a third in a sex scene?  The short answer, yes!  But, this is the real world with real disease and so on so I am not too sure that it would ever pan out for us.  So much would have to be perfect for this to actually occur.  We have children and families and I have a sneaky feeling that by the time the time would be "right" we would be too damn old anyway  =)

Awesome questions B! 

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

I LOVE Q&A!! Ask away....

March is question month!  

Bring me your best- I love how some questions make me really think deep and some just make me giggle.  I will be surfing your blog right back with questions of my own!!

Monday, March 2, 2015


What a sad total compared to January!

What reasons could I give?
-February is a short month.
-I got one hell of a period for a full week (Depo has kept that away for months!)
-life= busy

March is sure to be a better month, right?! 
We shall see. For now, I am still busy as hell and need to run. 

I need to catch up on my reading once things slow down a bit.  It sounds like the blogger photo issue is maybe NOT an issue?????  Is that true??