Friday, December 19, 2014


I promise to catch up on your blogs but I have a few little minutes before the kiddos appear and I need to get some things out.

We are talking.  One long check-in session occurring over the past few days.

He talked about maintenance.  This Man of mine who had to ask me what "TTWD" meant in a blog question just a few short weeks ago.

He talked about schedules.

I laughed and said, We don't have to schedule it.  

He lectured that the whole point of maintenance is consistency.
Once a week, for now.

I started to cry.

But first, I told him that if I start to cry, nothing is wrong.

I am not sad.

I am thankful.

And then, we had our first day of maintenance.

Today is a good day.


  1. I'm so very happy for you!!! Still no spanking happening here:/

    1. This was such a long disconnect for us, it was difficult to navigate out.

      Those darn spankings are just too needed to go without- I hope you get some coming your way!!

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    1. <3 Thank you Misty! By the way, I looked for your email on your blog and I couldn't find it....send me a quick line if you have time.

    2. Darn blogger! I can't find your email either. My email is :)

    3. Thanks misty! I will be using it very soon =)

  3. Great to hear that you are getting maintenance. It should help make you more submissive as you surrender to him.


    1. The maintenance refocuses me like nothing else we have done. I am not a brat, this is not a game for us. I just need to be in "my place" and be allowed to release everything else.

      Thank you for your D perspective!

  4. There is something to be said about a schedual. I am not a big fan of scheduals myself but I find with MyWolf & I we have inconsistency issues. Because we are LDR, it is very easy for things to get in the way ... his work keeps him running all the time & then my fibro kicks in & I don't even feel human, let alone submissive. I often wonder if it would help if we had a schedual of sorts.

    1. I deal best with lists, schedules, rules, boundaries and so on. I am logic minded so for me, consistent maintenance, will be an extension of that and (I am thinking) will give me great focus.

      My worry is that if it isn't consistent I will rebound the other way and be a mess. We'll see. We are also working on more check-in times to avoid the huge disconnect.

      Bring it up to your Wolf. A fixed schedule with check-ins could really work in a LDR I think! Good luck to you with this!!

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    1. Thank you SHIP.
      It really was just a miserable few weeks around here. No passion. It was NOT U/us in any way and I am so thankful that we both care enough to make it better!

  6. So happy to read this Pearl :)


    1. I was so excited when I wrote it!

      I truly wrote it shortly after our maintenance time =) Silly, I know, but I felt so relieved and free that I had to get it out in writing.

      Thank you, as always Roz!