Monday, December 15, 2014

I am not alone.

We are not perfect.
Very far from it in fact.

But,
We have love.
We are IN love.

He has been researching.
I had no idea.

How to be a better leader.  
How to help me better surrender.

I had NO idea.




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  1. And I'm sure that makes a world of difference to how you feel!

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    1. It really does Misty. My Man is very content choosing his own path for us in this, the fact that he went out of his comfort zone means for than I can say.

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  2. That is awesome♥ I'm sure that makes you feel like he really cares!

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    1. LR, very much so. I know how invested he is in making this part of U/us work better.

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  3. This is great Pearl, I hope you are feeling better.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I am getting there Roz. He and I have had some needed conversations. We are committed to each other and to what we both need/want. Thank you for your words of support, they mean a great deal on such dark days.

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  4. The fact he is researching the lifestyle is a positive step. Maybe he will realize he has to be the leader to bring out your submissive side and train you to obey and submit. Good luck going forward.

    FD

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    1. FD, My Man and I are perfectly matched, I was made for him. I am so thankful that he is putting so much effort into helping me be who I was made to be.

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    1. Thank you, always, for your support Brooke. It has been a rough couple of weeks but we are really working on it. I know I am a shitty blogger friend and not reading blogs but I am hoping to get back to myself. I am thinking of you and hoping that you're doing good!

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  6. Hi Pearl,

    I'm just catching up. Sorry to hear you went through a rut...oh boy do I know how much it sucks to go without the spankings and that connection. ((hugs))

    But researching...I am soooooooo sooooooo happy to read that!!! Sounds like he really wants to step up and be and amazing leader to you! That is so awesome!

    hugs,
    aurora

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    1. Aurora, always so good to read a comment from you!

      We are slowly working our way through it. I am truly lost without the connection so I cannot explain how much it means to me for him to search for a better way. I am a lucky girl.

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  7. For both sides in a D/s, research and leaning is an ongoing process. We must never reach the point where we think we know it all, whether a relationship is thriving or floundering. Constantly asking "How can I make this even better?" is always best for both parties involved, and I wish you the very best!

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    1. M49,
      Thank you for stopping in and leaving your thoughts.

      I am a researcher as well. I want/need to know as much as possible. My Man, while he does not feel that he knows it all, is NOT a researcher. He very much has wanted this to truly be what we do. Also, much of what we found when we first started this was more of the D/s "show". Not the real life that we are living. It's all well and good to read a story about a little slave slut who only inhales when told, but we are real life and there was a lack of real life accounts I think. As time has gone on, I have found some examples of D/s for the real couple and I have shared that with him.

      As much time has passed and we've hit a roadblock here and there, I think that he is starting to see the value in others' ideas/thoughts on this subject. Many people have been through similar situations as us and they have experience on succeeding through. We still focus on what HE wants for us but I have noticed that with his new researching, what he wants seems a little more clear (if that makes sense).

      And again, I very much agree. Good enough is NEVER good enough, I truly feel that you can always do better!

      Thank you for your Dom perspective, it is so very appreciated and welcomed here!
      XOXO Pearl

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