Our two week sabbatical is over. We are home. Family time, U/us time, my alone time. There was some well earned rest & fun.
We talked. We cuddled. We quietly allowed our D/s sides to connect when our lodging accommodations allowed it. Even some lovely D/s time when vanilla was expected and we were out in the open.
That connection time- every piece of it- is invaluable to us. THAT is when we have time to be free and to communicate clearly.
My Man had the opportunity to tell me more of what he needs from me as his sub/wife. I don't usually hear this part from him as often as I would like. It sounds crazy maybe, being that we choose to live a D/s lifestyle, but he is not usually giving me direction or rules. I have thought about this in terms of my tomato plants, follow me on this, it really should makes sense. My tomato plants can grow just fine with only the soil and water we have, they really can. But, to REALLY make them flourish, I have to prune them. I have to break off the stems that aren't fruitful, turn the soil, remove the weeds, and guide each limb to be supported by the surrounding cage. When I don't do this, the tomatoes grow just fine. But, when I put in the effort to DO this, they grow SO MUCH better!
Can I be a good submissive for my Husband just because it is in me to do so. Sure.
Can I be a GREAT submissive without HIS input, pruning, and effort. No.
The biggest enemy of being GREAT........is being good.
I am not happy being good.