Wednesday, April 30, 2014

I've been nominated for a.................

Thank you so much to Blondie for the nomination!  This award is to encourage new kids on the 'blog' with fewer than 1000 followers and I'm happy to have it!!

Here are the rules: 

1. Thank the person who nominated you and post a link to their blog on your blog.

2. Display the award on your blog-- by including it in your post and / or displaying it using a "widget" or "gadget".

3. Answer 11 questions about yourself which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.

4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.

5. Nominate 5-11 blogs you feel deserve this award, who have less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display the widget that lets readers know this information.

6. Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.

7. List these rules on your post. Once you have written and published it, you then have to :

8. Inform people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster Award and provide a link for them to your post so they can learn about it (they might not have heard of it!)

Questions Blondie asked me to answer:
1. Are you generally a happy person?
I am.  I really don't like dealing with crabby people.  It exhausts me.

2. Do you look like your mother?
Hmmm.  Maybe a bit.  

3. Favorite sex position?
I am very partial to doggy style.  I love it.

4. Will you or have you told your children about your spanking lifestyle?
Our spanking is part of our sex life so no, I have not and will not discuss that with them.  
As far as D/s and what that means to us as a couple.  I actually do discuss some general 
ideas with them.  I want them to see our love and respect for each other.  I also want them 
to see that I give myself (surrendered/submissive) to their Dad because HE is deserving 
of it and has earned this trust I have in him to be the leader in our home.  

5. Do you own any sex toys and if so how many and which is your favorite?
We do...own a fair amount =)  A count, I will just go with a fair amount!  My favorite?  
I have two.  The pretty pink flogger I made and my pink vibrator.  I guess I'm a pink girl! 
Never in a million years would I have thought that I would be a pink girlie-girl.

6. Have you ever had a picture taken of your red bottom after a spanking?
Never of my red bottom. I may have to ask him about that.

7. What decade did you attend high school?

8. What song do you tend to sing in the shower?
Deep melancholy songs, real and made up.  I rock the house in the shower!  I often wonder 
how crazy I sound from out of the shower!

9. Have you ever thought about walking away from your life and starting over somewhere else?

10. Would you go on a cruise with your family and your extended family (parents, in-laws, siblings, etc)
I much prefer to be with my Man and our children only but, yes, I would go with family too.

11. Is there a subject that you and your husband dance around and try to sweep under the carpet
instead of dealing with it?
For the most part we are both very direct and take care of situations head on.  Unfortunately, 
we do have one situation we seem to put off a lot.  

My 11 random facts:
1. Purple is, and has always been, my favorite color.  I never wear purple though, it looks silly on me.
2. Except for my purple corset, it is truly BEAUTIFUL.
3. I really cannot stand abbreviations being used in conversation.  '24/7' drives me nuts.  Take the time to
speak in a full sentence please.
4. I am thankful every day for spell check.
5. I placed in the American Open in my sport....back in the day.
6. I married my Man.  Twice.  (no divorce included-just love)
7. Every time I get into a car for a road trip I feel like I have to pee, even if I just went!
8. I have never had to use our safe word.
9. I have BIG boobs, naturally. And my Man REALLY loves them.
10. I want my nipples pierced but I won't because others will see them through my shirt.
11. "I am amazingly good at board games"  This one is from my Man.  I do have to say, it is true.  I am
freakishly good at group board games.  Answers will fly from my mouth without me even thinking and I
sometimes have NO idea how I know the random fact I just stated.  It's funny.

Now I would like to nominate the following bloggers for the Liebster blog.
Jay at subhub (Awesome s/husband/male POV.  Jay ADORES his Mistress/Wife- very good new blog)
mckitten (still can't find her darn 'Follow this blog' widget so I type in the address often!)
subkitty (made the big leap to blogland and I am glad she did!)
Conina B (not a new kid on the blog, but under 1000 followers and fantastic all the same)
searching for sir (this blogger is in a tough spot trying to figure out if/where she and her Husband fit with
TTWD.  She's a great gal who could use some support)

If you haven't read these blogs, please click on their name and the link will bring you to their blog.  
Check them out!

Here are your questions for my Liebster Award nominees!
1. Where were you the first time you and your Husband/Wife kissed?
2. What does your Husband/Wife do first when waking up (if you're not sure...ask!!)?
3. Favorite place to touch your Husband/Wife?
4. The last place you touched your Husband/Wife?
5. Campfire or fireplace?
6. Biggest sex blooper you and your Husband/Wife have had?
7. Favorite sexy toy?
8. Do you worry (what worries you) about those around you knowing about your relationship dynamic?
9. One hidden talent?
10. If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?
11. One sex related item you would NOT want to live without? (Besides your partner)

Monday, April 28, 2014

What changed?

A LONG time ago, I remember a friend of ours stopping mid-conversation to follow her husband downstairs (where he wanted to be).  I also remember a new conversation starting with the remaining friends in our group and something to the effect of "So is she a submissive wife or what?" popped up.  My most clear memory of that is how much I disagreed with my 'submissive' friend.  And, quite frankly, the idea of being submissive to a man at all.


Now I remind myself that for this specific couple their dynamic it is in the religious context of men lead and women follow.  This is not our context.  I do not believe that I follow men.  I follow ONE Man.  Also important is that the husband is a bit of a dickhead.  Nothing like my Man.

The specifics of that couple aside, I remembered thinking that you had to be crazy to be submissive.


Who I was.
I was a strong, proud, stubborn young girl.
I worked hard for everything I needed and wanted.
I wanted to be successful, in everything I did.
I was more interested in building physical strength than physical beauty.
I loved my Man unapologetically.
I was happy.

How did I ever become submissive/surrendered to my Man?  We have over 20 very happy years together.
What changed?  Why now?  Were we destined to come to this all along?

Who I am now.
I am His strong and proud submissive/surrendered wife.
My personal pride takes a distant back seat to the pride I have in being His.
I can still be stubborn. I clear my head and return to HIM, surrendered. We are on the same side.
I work hard for everything WE want and need.  I work harder to put His wants and needs first.
I still want to be successful in everything I do, but now it is only His opinion that counts.
I am strong AND beautiful.  Inside and out.  He deserves all of me and he sees me perfectly.
Who am I to say that His wife is not the most beautiful woman he has ever seen.
I love my Man passionately.  I love my Man intensely.  I love my Man unapologetically.
I love my Man with every ounce of submission and surrender in my heart.

Who my Man has always been.
He is loving.  He is honorable.  He is strong.  He is funny.
He is the reason I feel beautiful.  He is the reason I laugh out loud.
He is the reason I smile when I wake up and the reason I smile when I fall asleep.
He is every amazing moment in my life.  He is every bit of strength I have when my world is upside down.  He is every emotion that makes me feel alive.


What changed?  
Why now?  
I finally understand that my life only has meaning because my Man is in it.  I think that it's time I thank Him.

Friday, April 25, 2014

Well, Fuck me crazy!

I wouldn't believe it if I wasn't there myself.

He told me to count each orgasm out loud.  I counted 50.  

I was sweating, crying, panting, moaning....and giggling.  

The sobbing and giggling intertwined as though they were always meant to go together.

Nothing was funny.  I was out of my mind.

My Man likes to joke that 20 orgasms fucks me stupid.  

I guess 50 orgasms fucks me crazy.

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

In it for the long haul...

I'm in it for the long haul baby.  

My Man said this to me a while ago.  It was in reference to 'the bitch' I was hormonally being at the time and my coldness to him as he hugged me in the kitchen.  No need to gasp in horror, I feel the shame, trust me.

I remember that moment often and how very much it mattered/matters to me.


He started our time off perfectly, lovingly.  He is an amazingly GOOD Man.  I have moments where I just don't deserve him.  He gives of himself anyway.  We have always been a perfect Yin and Yang.  When he struggles, I am strong.  When I struggle, he is strong.  And, he reminds me that he is in this for the long haul.  What an amazing way to say 'I love YOU'.

I have worked on making changes, a lot lately.  I am deciding to work harder.  I have it in me to DO better and to BE better.  I just need to find it when the hormones rage.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

A New Revelation.

If you brought D/s to your relationship, 
When did you have the revelation that your partner was doing doing this WITH you and not just FOR you??
 Or, if your partner brought it to you,
When did you know that this was FOR you too?

After my long stretches of work, I feel useless.  I am mentally and physically exhausted.  

We are laying near each other on the couch, me half asleep stretched out laying on my belly, my Man half working on his phone.  We toy with my lack of energy for any amount of 'play time' to be had.

I remind him.  I'm always ready for you babe, I will find the energy.  My eyes are half closed and my body just lays there.  I WILL find the energy....I just haven't quite found it yet.

I am asleep.

My pants are being roughly pulled down to my thighs.  His strong warm hand rubs and squeezes my ass.  MMmmmm.  He starts warming my ass with smacks.  There is something about his hand striking my bare ass that is so intimate.  It really is a lovely way to wake up.  

His warming spanks stop.  I don't move an inch.  I can hear him go into our room.  

For our toy box?  Oh yes.

I don't know care how long this spanking lasted, but it was quite possibly the best one to date!  He alternated my pretty pink flogger with the hard wooden paddle, in rhythm.  Pretty flogger softer to hard then POP with the wooden paddle.  So much build up, so much effort on my Man's part.  He paid special attention to my ass but my back and feet felt the love too!

I am grateful.  He wipes away the strain.  He wipes away the stress.  He brings me back home.  Every single strike is a welcomed gift.  He delivers me to the most confidently surrendered place.  My body melts for him.  

He directs me to turn over.  I am treated to some love and attention on my nipples and breasts.  Wooden paddle in quick, sharp, delicious strikes.  Pretty pink flogger doing the amazing work the flogger does.  Nipple clamps and more breast spanking.  I am squirming.  I am brought to the edge.  I think I am dripping.

I am turned over again.  Nipple clamps with connecting chain in place.  OUCH and YUM!

His strength and Dominance literally makes me feel as though I glow.  I am the most loved s/wife.  I am HIS.  Cherished.  Beautiful.  HIS.  

There is an anal plug used.  One I quickly identify as the 'large' one we have.  I offer my ass to him as best I can.  This is so much to take.  I squirm.  He spanks.  He continues slow and steady.  I offer my ass again, as best I can.  I squirm and yell.  He spanks.  Again, he continues slow and steady with the plug.

Never has so much love and consideration melded with Dominance and strength like they did with my Man in this moment.  He knows my desires, he knows limits, he knows my body.  He knows what we BOTH need.  I continue to squirm and yell out a bratty 'NO' several times.  He confidently continues on.  

When the plug is in I am yelling.

I am yelling out for permission to cum.  

No answer.  He starts to spank me again.  I am crying out for permission.  Over and over.  No answer.

My body is not allowing me to wait.  I will not allow myself to let go and feel it until he says.  He finally gives me permission.  My body and mind follow what my girly parts have already started.  I am cumming FOR my Man. 

The cherry on top is when he sits on the couch in front of me, pants off.

Are you going to suck my dick or am I going to fuck your throat?

Fuck my throat please. 

Being the gentleman he is, he fucks my throat.  Just like I so politely asked.  I gag and cough and open right back up for him.  He continues on, enjoying all of me.  This is such a primal fucking.  We both cum.

Good way to start your time off babe?

Oh God, yes.  Thank you so much.  

I continue to thank him over and over, during clean up, after clean up, during cuddle time.  I am SO thankful.  

Why are you thanking me?  He laughs.

Herein, I have THE REVELATION!

I realize that I have always 'thanked' him for giving me what I need and for welcoming what I brought (D/s) to our relationship.  During that time of him exploring D/s with me (maybe even FOR me) something else even bigger was happening.  He was discovering what HE likes and what HE needs.

HE doesn't just do what I like and need.  HE is doing what he likes and needs!!  The effort and care into all he did was not just for me.  He started our time off the way HE choose to, with me.  

He is finding comfort in his Dominance.  

Yes, I am thankful.  My gratitude is now in it's correct place.  I am thankful that he trusts me enough to explore what HE wants.  From BOTH of us.

There are several 'moments' during the evolution of this lifestyle that leap you into a new revelation.  Some are really big, some are little moments that keep you going.  I truly am thankful for each of those moments!

Whether D/s is new in your relationship or your roles have been long established, what are some of YOUR moments?

Friday, April 11, 2014

THANK Goodness for the SUN!

I feel as though this greeting should be 'ALOHA!'

It really is nowhere near Hawaii weather but it feels just as amazing!  Hopefully you are all getting a lil-bit-O-sunshine your way as well.

Life has been running me ragged this past few weeks.  Illness for all in my home, the big and small...aging extended family to care for...long and early hours at work...


D/s stays.  Roles loosen.  Expectations shift.

D/s stays.

I am overjoyed to have met this milestone with my Man.  My saving grace when all is unclear and too much is that being his s/wife remains  Having my D/Husband remains.  He gives me what I need.  I even ask for what I need.  I give him what he needs.  Nothing is taken away.  Sex takes a back seat when it has to, though it is never far away.  We BOTH need the connection.

I asked for more.  I needed more.  I needed to feel him while I would be away.

The delicious thing about it our kind of love is that I can feel him on my my body...long after he has gone.

Oh, yes.

D/s stays.

Thursday, April 3, 2014


What do you want to do today?  He is on his back, cock hard and in my grip.  I'm kneeling on my pillow next to him.

Anything. You? 

I want to love you. And, if that means I have to hurt you a little to love you- that's OK.


My pretty pink flogger feels AMAZING.  My eyes are closed and I can feel the strands on my skin well after he has struck me and draws back for more.

Do you want more?